3 Quick Tips to Solve Premature Ejaculation

You might be wondering why we are discussing this on a “married women only” blog, but helping your husband in this area will help both of you! It can be sexually frustrating for the woman when this happens and difficult for the man as well. He can feel like he let you down or didn’t perform well eventually leading to more problems. And you can feel that he is being selfish.

Premature ejaculation happens to about every man at some point. That and impotence are two of the most common problems among men. Let’s discuss a bit of physiology.

  1. Your man cannot control his orgasm like you. We can stop on a dime. A man can’t. And telling him to wait can heighten anxiety. Studies have shown that anxiety actually heightens the chance of orgasm in men. I know…weird.
  2. Men can reach a point of “no return” and there is NOTHING HE CAN DO TO STOP IT.
  3. For some men, the longer between sex, the more chance of premature ejaculation.
  4. The average male will ejaculate after about 2 minutes of vigorous thrusting (this is not considered premature because it’s just the way your honey is). Changing pace and depth of thrusts can delay orgasm.

Since you can have multiple orgasms (unlike men who must wait at least 15 minutes), it can be quite fun to orgasm during foreplay. This takes the pressure off both of you but also allows for more orgasms during sex if you desire. Not to mention it will drive your man wild seeing you orgasm during his expert foreplay. 🙂

Here Are the Three Tips

Be patient with your man if this is an issue. Encourage him to practice Kegel exercises 2-3 times a day 10 times each. He shouldn’t use your abdominal muscles though. He needs to contract the pelvic muscles. Hold about 3 seconds. After about 2 weeks, he should notice a difference. Here are the three tips:

  1. Stop start. Basically, with your help, your husband needs to stimulate himself but stop short of the point of no return, which is when the muscles surrounding his penis start moving. This might require manual stimulation by you or you with him to keep his imagination on you not wrong thoughts of other lovers or pornographic images. Stop all stimulation and wait for the feeling to diminish and then repeat. FIFTEEN MINUTES is sufficient time to practice. Most suggest 2-3 times a week. I suggest finishing with great sex! Eventually, he can practice this technique by inserting you but lie still and let him do the same things as manual stimulation. The minute he feels the need to ejaculation, he needs to stop all motion. This might not sound like fun for both of you, but it will be worth it in the long run if this is a problem.
  2. Squeeze technique. You can use this with the “stop start” technique, too. Once your husband feels ejaculation starting, he is to pull his penis out and then you grasp it with your thumb and index and middle fingers. Your thumb should be on the underside of the shaft and two fingers just below the hood of his penis. You can switch finger positions if more comfortable. Press firmly but gently for several seconds. Begin intercourse again and repeat as needed.
  3. The scrotal pull. For some this is not a good technique and can make you nervous. One reason is you can hurt him by pulling too hard or squeezing his testicles. Some find this technique very successful though. Basically, when your man feels an orgasm building, he lets you know and you very gently take his scrotum in your hand and pull down away from his body and hold for a few seconds until excitement diminishes then start intercourse again.

As I suggested in the previous blog post, having an orgasm should NOT BE THE GOAL of sex. Intimacy with your husband should be. But there is no reason for both of you to not have wonderful orgasms. Orgasms lower cortisol, improve your immune system, and it’s the only time the man releases oxytocin (the bonding hormone). Don’t worry about having orgasms at the same time. And it is important for your honey to know that once he orgasms, you might not be able to because his penis will soften and not maintain penetration. For this reason, he should finish last!

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