Divinely Designed for Sex

Did you know God created sex? All one has to do is look at the way the bodies of men and women were designed. God created male and female bodies FOR SEX within the safety of marriage. And don’t believe the lie that sex is only for reproduction and not pleasure. Let me give you some examples from scientific research:

  • Both men and women are in a continual state of arousal but the brain keeps it in check.
  • When you kiss, the nerve endings in your lips (that have more nerve endings than almost any other part of the body) carries the kiss at 350 ft per sec to your cortex. The cortex asks, “Is this sexy?” It then goes into long-term memories in your limbic system on what is sexy. If the cortex decides it’s sexy, the sweat in your armpits release an aphrodisiac scent that heads straight to the limbic system. After that signals go along your spine and to EVERY CORNER OF YOUR BODY creating arousal.
  • The female clitoris has the HIGHEST CONCENTRATIONS OF NERVE ENDINGS of the body, 8,000 to be exact. Twice as many as the male’s penis. THE CLITORIS IS ONLY DESIGNED FOR SEX. It has no other purpose.
  • A man’s masculine voice tells a women that he has high testosterone, which is attractive to a female.
  • A feminine looking female tells the man that she has more estrogen and that is attractive to a male.
  • Oxytocin, the bonding hormone (high in couples who have been together 20 plus years), is released during orgasm.
  • After male orgasm, men release prolactin, a chemical that is like heroin for the man.
  • Our sexual areas have just as much feeling in them as our fingers.
  • Testosterone is highest for men on the weekends.

In summary, you could say that sex starts with the brain.

It is not Good that Man Should be Alone

God created Adam first. One day He and Adam worked together to name the animals. It is my personal opinion that by naming all the animals, Adam felt for the first time alone because none of the animals were like him.

Genesis 2:18-20 (NKJV) 
18  And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
19  Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name.
20  So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.

God put Adam to sleep and out of one of his ribs, God formed woman. He then brought the woman to the man for the FIRST MARRIAGE CEREMONY CONDUCTED BY GOD.

Genesis 2:22-25 (NKJV) 
22  Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
23  And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” 
24  Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
25  And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Note two things: 1) Adam declared that a man will leave his parents and “cling to his wife;” 2) they will become ONE FLESH, which means UNITY OF BODY; and 3) they were both naked but not ashamed. Shame came after the fall.

One flesh isn’t solely speaking of sexual union. It also refers to emotional and spiritual intimacy and the conception of children, which is the literally fruit of two becoming one.

Sexual Union in Marriage A Picture of Christ and His Church

Marriage and the sexual act within the safety of marriage is a PICTURE OF CHRIST AND HIS CHURCH AND THE INTIMACY WE ARE SUPPOSED TO SHARE WITH HIM.

Ephesians 5:30-32 (NKJV) 
30  For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.
31  “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
32  This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

The Bible says that when we are born again, we become one in spirit (1 Cor. 6:17). The context of this revelation was fleeing sexual immorality. All sin is outside the body but sexual sin is AGAINST the body because we are the temple of God. THE SEXUAL ACT A SPIRITUAL ACT.

Health Benefits of Sex

Incredibly, God has created our bodies to benefit health wise from sex. Here are a few of the scientifically proven benefits:

  • Sex increases your immune system resulting in less sick days and time off work.
  • Sex increases your sex drive. The less sex you have, the less desire. The more sex you have, the more desire. One of the most common obstacles for women according to a survey I conducted was low sex drive. For women, who naturally have lower sex drive (but not always), you must “PRACTICE SEX” to build appetite.
  • Sex improves women’s bladder control.
  • Sex lowers blood pressure.
  • Sex is a great way to exercise. You burn about 5 calories per minute.
  • Sex lowers heart attack risk.
  • Sex blocks pain.
  • Sex improves sleep.
  • Sex reduces stress.
  • Sex results in lighter periods. Testosterone is released in women after sex, which can lighten periods.

Summary

I want you to see that GOD THOUGHT OF EVERYTHING concerning sex from the design of your body, the emotional and spiritual impact, and the health benefits! He designed you to not only procreate, but to have intense pleasure from the sexual act and to grow closer to your husband. THE GREATEST WARFARE FOR YOUR MARRIAGE IS SEX!

Destination Church